My mother was the smartest person I've ever known, not
because she had a fancy job or a high level of education,
but because of her experience and wisdom. When I was a
little kid she used to share her thoughts, ideas and life
lessons with me. I can honestly say I would not have
been the person I am today without her.
In an effort to save her words and pass them on to my
children, I have written down her snippets of advice and
thoughts on life. A few years after my project was done
she passed away in her sleep. Today, I want to share
some of her inspiring words with you, I hope they will help
you as much as they have helped me.
1. Breathe in the future, breathe out the past
No matter where you are or what you’re going through,
remember there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Never expect, assume, or demand anything - just do your
best, control what you can, and let go of what you can't.
2. Others should accept you for who you are
Speak your truth even if your voice shakes and you
know it won't be well-received. You are something
beautiful and unique, so if you hold that back, the whole
world becomes a little less amazing. Walk your path
confidently and proudly - don’t expect anyone else to
understand your journey.
3. You are not who you used to be, and that’s okay
People go through many ups and downs in life, and it
changes them. You are no different. Your perspective has
changed, your likes and dislikes have changed, your
political views may have changed, and that is all normal.
When people accuse you of changing, just reply by
saying: “Of course I’ve changed. That’s what life is all
about. I’m still the same person, just stronger and wiser.”
4. Everything that happens helps you grow
Whatever happens, hold on to hope. Learn from
everything and don’t be afraid to make the same mistake
twice, three times, or as many times as necessary.
5. Life should be simple
Focus on one thing at a time. You don’t have to do
everything, and you don’t need to do something every
second of your life. Breathe, be present, and do your best
- it's the most anyone, including yourself, could ever hope
6. Educate yourself to be happy, not to be rich
There is a big difference between knowing the price of
things, and knowing the value of things. In the end, you
will come to realize that the best days are the days when
you don’t need anything special to make you smile.
7. Always be positive
Your misery or unhappiness is determined not by your
circumstances, but by your attitude. Smile at those who
want to hurt you - show them that they can’t take away
your happiness from you. Your willpower is stronger than
8. Pay close attention to those you care about
When people say “I’m okay,” you need to look them in the
eyes, hug them tight, and reply, “I know you’re not”. Don’t
be too upset if some people only seem to remember you
when they need you, only be upset if they are not there
when you need them.
9. Learn how to let go of people
Some people are bad for you, some people need to do
things on their own, and some people might need you to
teach them a hard lesson. It's not easy to say goodbye
when you don’t want to but you know you need to, it's for
the benefit of both sides
10. Sometimes getting results means stripping
yourself of people that slow you down
As much as you may love them, some people can make it
a lot harder for you to reach your goals. Almost everyone
will encounter such a person during their life. As you find
out who you are and what you want, you realize that
people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you
do. Keep the wonderful memories you had with them, but
move on to achieve your happiness.
11. “I can’t believe I did that”, is much better than, “I
wish I did that.”
Don’t live your life trying to impress others. Live it so
you'll impress yourself. If you know you will regret not
doing something, just do it. It's that simple.
12. If you can't find your happy ending, maybe it’s time
to look for a new beginning.
We all fail from time to time, it's just a part of life. Don’t
be stubborn and just accept it. The strongest people out
there are the same people who have fought the toughest
battles, lost, and moved on to a new beginning